I know why bastard has negative connotations. Historically, if you were born out of wedlock, life was going to be extremely tough.
On Cyburbia, there was a conversation once about "Special is the new retard." They routinely rename economic recessions and the new word soon means the same as the old.
I spent years baffled by why "fuck you" or "go fuck yourself" is harsh language. Why would get laid and masturbate be expressions for jacking your shit up?
And then I recently wrote this piece.
Someone once said to me "I'm the fucker. You're the fuckee." because it was a heterosexual relationship and I'm a woman.
My former sister in law would be in her fifties and raised three children by an alcoholic boyfriend who never married her. The third child is probably the product of rape and it may not be the only one.
She's probably still fucked. Her life has never recovered.
I'm sixty and did marry the father of my children and had more rights and benefits as a military wife than a lot of women get and my life still hasn't recovered from supporting a man's career and raising kids and I'm substantially better educated than her.
She got fucked. As in royally fucked over.
She got fucked so hard her life will NEVER recover.
And she probably didn't even have an orgasm.