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Heternormative Culture is a Strangling Monoculture

The existence of trans people speaks directly to the defects in heternormative culture. I am trying to:

1. DESTROY heternormative culture. 

2. Install something less dysfunctional in its place. 

The site Formulary of Life exists at all as a power play political move to say FUCK YOU DONALD TRUMP.  

Donald Trump is openly transphobic, homophobic, racist, hates Native Americans, has a wife more than twenty years younger than him and in a nutshell represents everything wrong with heternormative culture which actively promotes subsistence culture and actively turns sex into a negative experience we should fear and loathe.

Heternormative culture is a paradigm that insists that there's one and only one correct lifestyle:
A nuclear family with a breadwinner father, homemaker mother and dependent minor children.
This encourages old farts like him to marry much younger women under circumstances that make it a negative experience for everyone involved resulting in America assuming the worst about a relationship with a significant age difference, men not knowing how to adequately feed themselves and tend to basic matters of health themselves without someone else taking care of it and women getting the majority of their income via their current sexual relationship such that many women view sex as a commodity and chore not something enjoyable.

It means we don't really build housing appropriate for old people whose kids have grown up and moved out or young people who are unmarried and childless. 

It means the LGBTQ crowd is at extremely high risk of homelessness because people don't want to hire them or house them.

It means heterosexual women can do everything right every step of the way and will still most likely end up living alone in poverty in old age as their reward for going along with everything society expects of them.

We have far too few jobs for people who aren't married cis het White males and almost no housing appropriate for a household of one to three people with a modest income and essentially zero infrastructure for any "alternative" lifestyle of any kind, whether single mom or Native American defaulting to some other social organization. 

My goal of destroying heternormative culture absolutely does not mean making it impossible for married heterosexual couples to live in a house in the 'burbs with a male breadwinner and housewife tending to the kids.

It means giving people other options so lives aren't ruined if for any reason they can't force fit themselves to this sole available lifestyle pattern.

Our jobs are designed on the assumption you are a breadwinner with a little wifey doing the women's work and making a good income is your only responsibility and someone else is tending to everything else that matters.

Our housing stock is almost all designed for a 1950s household that was never the majority of households but was the majority of homebuyers immediately after World War II.

Our residential real estate financing mechanisms are almost entirely geared towards building and buying suburban single family detached homes with kitchens that implicitly assume there's a full-time homemaker cooking up a storm as her defacto primary financial contribution.

This is no longer how most people live and it's a crisis.

The people desperately trying to find ways to force fit people harder to a lifestyle that never worked for everyone are causing enormous harm to the fabric of society.

Young single people, childless couples, retirees and subcultures with other social organizations aren't weeds to be stamped out.

Tree monoculture causes trees to be sick and results in what has been called "forest death." The trees you most WANT cannot thrive in a monoculture.

Trees thrive when they are part of a diverse ecosystem and people and society are similar. 

Those highly valued, well-paid powerful jobs stop thriving when there are no other viable means to adequately support people and allow them to live as they see fit.

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