Doreen Michele

I write about social stuff. I do so hoping to better understand social stuff and hoping that my effort to figure it out is valuable food for thought for others trying to figure it out. I'm not dictating morals. I'm a blogger with an incurable genetic disorder who has been celibate for medical reasons for over twenty years as a personal choice. I'm not religious. I'm not interested in being judgy in the way people routinely seem to project onto me. I'm probably far more "live and let live" than most people in the world.  I don't really have any desire to moralize per se and this is an endless source of social friction with other people for seemingly two reasons: 1. They are judgy assholes and things I talk about conflict with their desire to moralize and dictate morality and dictate social behavior to a degree I think is unreasonable.  2. People routinely want to insist that because I read about a particular subject and blog about it, they are entitled ...

I know why bastard has negative connotations. Historically, if you were born out of wedlock, life was going to be extremely tough. On Cyburbia, there was a conversation once about "Special is the new retard." They routinely rename economic recessions and the new word soon means the same as the old. I spent years baffled by why "fuck you" or "go fuck yourself" is harsh language. Why would get laid and masturbate  be expressions for jacking your shit up? And then I recently wrote this piece . Someone once said to me "I'm the fucker. You're the fuckee." because it was a heterosexual relationship and I'm a woman.   My former sister in law would be in her fifties and raised three children by an alcoholic boyfriend who never married her. The third child is probably the product of rape and it may not be the only one. She's probably still fucked. Her life has never recovered.  I'm sixty and did marry the father of my children and had...

I used to track data about demographics on Hacker News and sometimes blogged about it. I stopped because I had no audience and my relationship to people on Hacker News mattered to me, so I chose to mostly keep those observations PRIVATE.  As far as I can tell, I'm the only cis woman on the leaderboard. My understanding is one individual on the leaderboard privately identifies as nonbinary but isn't out about it on Hacker News. At least one member of the leaderboard is openly a gay male. I have reason to suspect two MAY be trans but aren't saying that publicly. At least one is Greek nationality. At least one is Polish nationality. At least one is Asian American.  One extremely pasty White WASP lived in Japan for a lot of years and married a Japanese gal. To my knowledge,  none of them LIES about any of that but they tend to not harp on their ethnicity or nationality or culture or other demographic "identity" details. Some are uncomfortably open about being Christia...

All my respect for  Paul . I thank you for allowing me to fall on my face and make an ass of myself while figuring it the fuck out. I'm alive and mostly physically well, may your good deeds come back to you. All my respect for  Jack . If I hadn't been DEATHLY ill, I imagine I would have married you and remained a big fat fucking nobody, having again gotten my MRS. Instead, I got a growth experience where you also allowed me to fall on my face and figure it the fuck out myself in spite of living in terror that I would take you down with me. The HN moderator Dan   Gackle apparently wants me back , which is not news to me . I have always respected his work. He's a better moderator than the one he replaced -- Paul Graham -- and I learned a lot from him when I'm usually ROLLING my eyes and internally screaming about what IDIOTS most moderators are. But I'm not interested in being a DEI member of the leader board. Thanks, but no thanks. Even if I never participate again ,...

I feel like when I try to share useful information online, I'm doing something akin to this scene in Dave, a movie I've never seen, where Dave lays out a lovely spread of gorgeous healthy food which dominates the view for part of the scene and makes a giant sandwich, cuts it in half and puts each half on a plate, one for himself and one for the guard to whom he is speaking. And the guard apparently declines to eat any of it. And then people kick the ever living shit out of me as if they feel like Tom Hanks in Saving Private Ryan WATCHING people eat sandwiches and shave and indulge in other luxuries to which he has had no access in some time and which they are not offering to share with him.  As if they feel like Tom Hanks but lack any veneer of civility and feel entitled to take your stuff and punish you for supposedly "not sharing" when sharing is exactly what I'm doing and wondering why, like the guard in the first clip, they  are choosing to not partake of no...

I have a serious medical condition and as is the norm for my condition, I was a bag of bones as a child. At the same time, I've always been big for a girl, starting with being nine pounds at birth and my mother told me that when I was five, doctors wanted to put me on drugs to slow my growth because they felt I was too big. She told them "No, she's not THAT big." I ultimately ended up 5'9" tall and was still a bag of bones when I hit that height at age seventeen, at which point I started taking hormonal birth control pills and gained about fifty pounds in one year. I met the future ex at age sixteen, so he knew me when I was still rail thin, but I married him at age nineteen after gaining a bunch of weight. He and my mom were always critical of my weight but a lot of men made it clear that I looked just fine, honey, and if he didn't like it, I could always call them if I wanted some positive strokes, which I mostly declined. I finally got a proper diagnos...

I want to design a better culture. A better way to feed people than what we currently have that adequately nourishes people without chaining women to the stove and a second class citizen status. I want to make clothes and change housing . I don't need all jobs and housing and food everywhere to change. I just want planet Earth to ALLOW a new option to exist for those who want it.